BEIJING, June 21 (Xinhuanet)--Ren Shaohua, 26, has gotten used to pulling himself out of bed at 6:30 am, feeding his six-month-old daughter boiled milk, cooking breakfast for his wife, and arriving at his office at 8 o'clock sharp.
"I did not expect so much pressure being a father, " Ren said. Since the birth of his daughter, he has been absent from all the social gatherings he used to enjoy.
"I have to rush home right after work. I'm afraid I've been forgotten by all my friends," he said.
Ren is one of many Chinese men who feel the pressure of being a father. About 90 percent of respondents to a survey ahead of this year's Father's Day, which fell on Sunday, said being a father is "never simple".
More than 67 percent of respondents in the online survey conducted by the popular portal sohu.com said the pressure on men comes from society's heavy demands on them.
"When I was young, I strived to buy an apartment and a car so that my wife would marry me. When I finally get them all, I'm no longer young. This is what's the matter with the whole Chinese society," said a 38-year-old man, who did not want to be named.
In the survey, 45.4 percent of the respondents said money is the main criteria used to judge the achievements of a man. Nearly 20 percent chose social status, and 19.2 picked a successful career. Only 15.8 percent believed having a happy family is an accomplishment.
Moreover, more than 50 percent of people who visit psychiatrists are middle-aged men, according to statistics released by the Chinese PLA 254 Hospital.